Originally Posted by
Alizerin 
I'm a grateful recovering alcoholic with 2 1/2 years sobriety. I work a hard program and see only positive gains from spending time with others who work a hard program. Certainly a companion.
The next relationship I had after having my youngest daughter was with someone in the program (AA/NA). I was 3 1/2 years clean/sober at the time.
I drank again shortly after my 4th AA birthday. I was out there for two long, miserable, hellish months. I was blessed to make it back alive.
I too worked a hard program for awhile, and my sponsor of 19 years will attest to that.
However, my unaddressed codependency issues, and lack of work on self in that area was a
huge contributing factor to my drinking again. I became completely lost in that relationship.
I suspect you will continue seeing this gentleman if you are half as stubborn as I was, and I sense you are.
I just hope your pain isn't half as much as mine in the end, or that you don't throw away your sobriety like I did.