Honey, I don't think it's personal against YOU. But your environment is not really helpful to his recovery. He still drinks in your home - albeit not vodka. You drove him to a hotel so that he could drink. You picked him up the next day. Your accommodations of him do allow him a "safe place" to drink.
He has to do what is necessary to his recovery and he has a probation officer who makes his rules for him. This is really out of your hands.
And yes, it stinks when they get to work on their recovery to the detriment of caring for their family and their children. It is selfish. Maybe a necessary selfish, but still - where does that leave you?
You are responsible for your children. Your husband is non-functioning at best and may go to jail. You should make some plans to take care of yourself and your little ones. You probably can't count on him to be around and responsible for a long time - if ever.
Good luck to you.