I Am Saved, I believe Summerpeach meant that just as we are advised to let them go, and let them find their own answers when they are ready and change their obsessive/destructive patterns for real, alkies often "let us go" as we need to find our own answers and change our own obsessive/destructive patterns for real.
Not that we need them in the first place or keep needing their "help" ... I know there is probably easier and less painful ways to learn. But I went through numerous relations with "unavailable guys" and I have to accept the one with the alkie brought me to my knees to the point that I had to be honest with myself.. thus hitting bottom.
Sorry, I am Aquarius and tend to "mediate", lol.