Originally Posted by
Summerpeach 
Have you ever thought, that maybe being a codie is like being an addict and as we have to let the addict find his bottom so he can grow, we need to find an addict in order to help us grow
I believe all those things had to happen to you because at 40, it was time to grow.
This intrigues me! How do codies need an addict to help them grow? Can't we grow without the toxicity of being involved with the addict?