If she is the love of your life and is going to be around for ever, what difference will an extra 6 months make? what's the rush? you can use those six months to do extra dad and daughter stuff, your new girlfriend can concentrate on her new non-drinking life, a little bit of strain in your otherwise perfect new relationship is surely a small price to pay to safeguard your 10-year old daughter, it's not like it's forever.
way to go on the Alanon, try reading co-dependent no more too.
Just that I happen to be in love with someone now in recovery.
who you have only been seeing for 8 months, who is very early in recovery, who during that time has threatened to kill herself, to you, whilst you were enjoying a family meal without her, crushed you by sleeping with another alcoholic, who you were sure from the off was someone you were going to be amazing together with, who drank alcoholically "due to" the actions of you and another guy, is a source of tension between you and your ex.
phew! I'm exhausted just reading it
. welcome to the board; there's great info in the stickies up top.