Thanks for all the replies, and Bookwyrm thanks for the link to that other thread, I had missed it and it is awesome!
well I guesss I am just being alive again ...
Originally Posted by
transformyself 
Red Flag!
Sounds like the perfect set up for an extra martial affair.
Dont' be surprised if his attention increases and he starts telling you about his marital problems, or says he's seperating.
Run. There are a bazillion guys out there that will love you up that aren't gay, married or A's.
Yep ... Thanks ... am running alright.