Music.
Playing Music, Listening to new music, exploring my musical interests from the past (I am reading some biographies of the Grateful Dead/Jerry Garcia), and my own musical heritage....
Blues, rock, bluegrass, folk... all of it can get "edgy", provocative, hip. Sometimes even wild.
I have a double whammy because my kids are getting older, some are away at school, so I don't get that constant injection of popular and contemporary culture/music/films... This more or less has happened as I have became clean and sober... so I have those days of feeling old, marginalized and "tragically unhip"...
hmm...
I am a bit of an adrenaline junkie also... some downhill skiing, whitewater canoeing, bicycling... hiking exposed mountains. Those activities provide a good rush.
A sense of humor helps too, and that, more than anything, is what we need more of.
Alcohol and drugs are not inherently "cool". We have just come to associate using them with being cool. It's a lie.
Mark