Originally Posted by
iwantcontrol 
Givelove – the thing is that my gut is telling me (i think) that underneath it all he is a good person, he does love me and he would never cheat on me etc. Or is my gut instinct telling me he is a horrible person who will never change? I don’t think so. But I’m not sure. It does really hurt. I can’t even make up my mind what I really and truly think.
When I get all knotted up like this, I like to write it down on paper and see what the EVIDENCE supports. No feelings or thoughts - just ACTIONS. But then, I am a lawyer and I aspire to look at things objectively.
In the end, I believe that thoughts, feelings and words are worth very little unless there are ACTIONS to accompany them. This has helped me immensely.