Wife – thanks for taking the time to put my words into answering those questions – it is quite enlightening to see it like that. I guess i am too hard on myself a lot of the time. I am impatient and want things to be sorted and better just like that. I’m not good at things that take a long time to fix or get out of. I will work on acceptance and I know it wont come quickly. I thought I had accepted that he is a drinker and will lie but I clearly haven’t done that yet. Thank you.
Givelove – the thing is that my gut is telling me (i think) that underneath it all he is a good person, he does love me and he would never cheat on me etc. Or is my gut instinct telling me he is a horrible person who will never change? I don’t think so. But I’m not sure. It does really hurt. I can’t even make up my mind what I really and truly think.