Originally Posted by
stilllearning 
Did I cause it? Has she found a way to control it? Is he cured????
Sweetie, no, no and no. You're comparing what his current relationship looks like on the outside to how your relationship was on the inside - of course they're never going to match up! After XAH and I split, I was talking to my friend. She knew XAH was an alcoholic (yeah, he hid that well...not!) but had no idea of what our marriage was actually like. She had no idea about the emotional and verbal abuse I lived with!
It could be that denial is very strong with the new woman. Does it really matter though? Were you 'right' together? Were you totally happy with him? He is an X for a reason, don't forget it. And please don't forget your three C's!!
:ghug3
PS XAH has an OW and was living with her happily last I heard (over 6 months ago). This I count as a blessing. She kept him out of my hair and I imagine things could have been so much worse for me as I broke free of his control without her being there. I don't care if he is happy or sad. I do care if I am though!!