Originally Posted by
shan123 
. I am now that the point where i have asked my mother not to share anything about my sister with me. Like she isn't even there anymore. I know that this sounds so horrible and mean, but I have to take care of me and my children.
It is not horrible or mean. It is a healthy boundary. Good on you!
You can't fix your mom or sister by being your mom's sounding board. Listening to her whine about your addicted sister does not heal, cure or make anybody feel positive or sane.
Let your mom know that you do not want to hear progress reports about your sister, in a gentle way. If she brings up your sister (it takes time to get the point across) again, change the subject or let her know you have to run. Hang up.