I just want to tell you that YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! Yes, all of the things that you mentioned are common for Addicts. You haven't been with him very long. I did the same thing as you... I knew from the beginning that something didn't seem right. My abf had issues with alcohol, but I thought I could see through it... see the "real" person underneath. I held on and we've now been together for 10 years. He is now addicted to pain killers with some legitimate pain, but who knows just how much. It will get worse... addiction is progressive. I hope that you won't do the same thing as I have and give up even more precious years of your life when your gut is telling you to leave. Your gut is right. I know you love him. I know he's probably a good person inside, but you're doing the right thing.