You were right Suki from other thread...I have to make him question whether I would ever reconsider. I guess I'm afraid that would be too much for him. And really, the whole thing is still about the fact that I am utterly so afraid to loose him for good.
Well, I don't think I said that, but if it came out that way, I didn't mean for it to. You dont have to make him do or think anything. All you need to do is take care of YOU. When you engage in contact with him, sure it might get him to thinking, but it also keeps you involved in all the drama. No contact isn't so much for the addict/alcoholic, it is for YOU.