I try to redirect my thinking as in yes that happened or it has to do with him but its my life and has to do with me. Thinsg will remind me of him but I still have myself and my life. Like our wedding pics..I am just putting them in the basement. It was part of my life. I dont need them but maybe one day I want to look at them. I learned I cant hide from what happened. It was part of my life but doesnt have to rule it going forward.