He seems to be able to be nice around other people when he's sober....but I never got to see that side. He still turned out to be a liar, manipulative and hurtful, and to me, that's who he is sober and drunk.
Yep. Remember - I want him sober so I must bear the brunt. And I made him that way - cause he drinks because of me. He called this marriage that he does not want to end(?) a "forced marriage". So he has reasons to be so cruel when he is sober.