Marie80 Welcome!
My EXH relapsed... about 9 months AFTER we were married... I found SR... this site was a Godsend... and it really pissed me off to learn what I had to learn... didn't want to know it... but I continued to lurk and read other stories and experiences... I came around to understand that the folks here really know what they are talking about.... in reading their stories... I saw myself.
I recently divorced and cameout relatively unscathed... financially... emotionally I still have a few hang-ups... but working through them....
You WILL find support, love, knowledge and everything else here... keep coming back... great site...great people.