I always say she's finding her way. Last summer a sister-in-law wouldn't let it drop. She kept asking if that was OK with me, do you approve, yada yada yada, and I kept repeating she's finding her own way. This SIL is a teacher with a national board certification and appears to think it gives her license to teach/instruct everyone.
When she walked away from me in disgust, I couldn't help but think she has control issues