Dear atdawn
Thank you for your post. I too am recently free.
I too clung to the hope he would change, but he never did.
I hoped it would not get worse but it did.
I wondered if somehow the advice here didn't apply to me but it did.
Me too. One month "sober" from my codependent relationship with a "recovering" but extremely dry alcoholic/sex addict.
My life has never looked better. Being alone has restored me to sanity.
Welcome to a better future!