Let me add my applause and admiration for your clarity at a time when many of us could allow our thinking to get clouded.
The only "other people" I listen to (about my son's recovery or lack of it or what I should or should not do) are people in recovery themselves...on MY side of recovery who understand and who have walked where I walk.
My son's life is precious, but I cannot control it.
My life is precious too and I have an obligation to myself, those who love me and God to live my life in the best way possible.
Thank you for inspiring me today, KLM, and I will keep your boy in my prayers.
Hugs