Hi Mike,
I'm glad you posted. It's good that you are aware of things that are a trigger for you.
It seems like you're getting a couple of very difficult things thrown your way at this time. But, I'm sure you know that being sober will help you to cope and find your way through this. As you said, you have education and experience and hopefully, you can find a new job before long. I hope that your wife gets some good news from her dr next week.