sorry that you're going through this. living with an addict and then trying to get rid of the addict is just as challenging. it's really probably better for your sanity to let your attorney talk to his attorney. if he wants marriage counseling to prove he's clean...seems kind of backward to me. he could get clean and STAY clean for a year, or however long and then attempt marriage counseling. if he wants to establish child support before potentially going to jail...say sure! then it can accrue while you're in jail so when you come out of jail you'll be in the arrears AND have a record.