Working harder than they are at helping them... Very Very familiar!!! The sad thing is I did it for years without knowing about the pills. I do wonder if I had known if I had been different, but it matters not anymore, the point is, I put myself and what was good for me on the back burner trying to "fix" someone else at my own expense, and that was the biggest lesson I learned.
We are taught to think of others, to not be selfish, etc. But, there is a difference between giving to others and giving up ourselves. I think that's where we as codies find it hard to distinguish and have to relearn, or learn, appropriate behavior to ourselves! You are doing great! It's not easy.
(((hugs)))