Welcome to the SR family!
Here is a link to excerpts from the book "Under the Influence":
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
That book helped me understand how alcohol affects the body, brain, and spirit of alcoholics.
Your bf is sober 2 months now, right? He is emotionally distant because he is emotionally stunted from years of drinking. An alcoholic would rather drown their emotions than experience grief, depression, anxiety, anger, etc....He didn't become an alcoholic overnight, and he won't be cured overnight. It takes time.
Now that your bf is sober and working with a sponsor and support group, what steps are you taking to take care of yourself? Alanon support groups, SR, and counseling will help you understand life with an alcoholic.
Pull out your keyboard and make yourself at home.