oh I remember feeling like this - I wanted it all done now, thank you very much. It took me a while to get that I spent 18 years with XAH getting into this mess, of course it's going to take me some time to get clear of it!
My anger was directed at me for such a long time - I couldn't believe I let things get the way they did. Why did I trust XAH more than myself? Why did I live the way I did for so long? It took me time to pick this anger apart and finally forgive myself for being human and making mistakes.
I'm glad you have a therapist - I found my counsellor invaluable. Would it be possible for your daughter to have a therapist too? It sounds like she would get a lot out of it.