Can I join the party?
I separated from STBXAH in September as I shipped him off to rehab again. The last 5 months have been challenging but at the same time, peaceful and glorious.
I don't think he's participating in a program, and can't do it anymore, so I retained my lawyer this afternoon and the divorce will be filed in less than a week. I don't anticipate he'll take it lying down, but then again, who knows. I can't control his reaction, but it's something he'll need to deal with, unlike the rest of his life.
I felt really, really guilty when I knew we were headed this direction, which has been partly helped knowing I can include paying COBRA for him as part of the settlement. It won't be pretty, but it's better than paying him cash alimony. And yes, I'll have to pay. Neither here nor there. There is less guilt now, although I don't know how I'll feel next week once he gets served. Now that's a phone call I might just have to not be home for. Just saying.