Take this to heart...You have to take care of YOU and put everyone else on the back burner. It was a hard lesson for me to learn, because I always thought if I put myself first then I'd be selfish! NOT! I have learned that the only person that I can change and depend on 100% is ME!
Take a deep breath, you dont have to decide everything in one day, but DO make your decisions based on what is best for you and you alone. I realize that if I dont take care of me, nobody else will!
Also, I agree with Teggy, Nar-Anon saved my life and sanity!
Peace to you