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02-28-2010, 10:05 AM

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sofacat

work in progress

Join Date: Sep 2009

Location: the sunshine state

Posts: 623

[I]Should I try one more time?

What exactly are you asking yourself to try?

Try to live with an A who isn't interested in recovery?
Try to live and deal with the dangerous consequences of His addiction?
Try and see if you can just ignore it?
Try to see if you can help fix His problem?
Try to hang on until it magically "goes away"?
Try to see just how far you can go before you break down?
Try to see if you can figure out a way to get Him sober?
Try to see if He realizes how unhappy this is making you?

These are all things that all of us here ask or have asked ourselves. I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation....but I'm real happy to hear you are close to making some positive changes in your own life.

We here try to remind ourselves the 3 C's

You didn't CAUSE His addiction.
You can't CONTROL His addiction
And you can't CURE his addiction.

The only thing you can do is focus on yourself. You sound like you are in a very unhappy place....so the real question you should be asking yourself is...

"How long can I live like this?"

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