OMG...people pleasing. It's the reason I have no real friends. How ironic is that. I see myself in all the situations mentioned above. I talk a mile a minute...trying to show people how much I know and how much I can do for them. I fuss over others, AND I have made most of my most important life decisions based on how other would feel about them...
all of which has left me lonely and alone. I know I give off a vibe that turns people off. I used to think it was because I was loud and flashy...which could be part of it...but now I'm seeing that it may be beause I have no personality of my own....I just sort of morph into whatever the person closest to me wants me to be....and that could seem kind of fake.
It seems the more you want/need friends...the harder they are to find. So...how do you back off and still not seem cold?
Interesting ideas.
Love and hugs
Annie