As a man, if I were still single and dating, I wouldn't try to bring a lady home on the first date or go inside her house for more than a few mome moments, especially, if I liked her. You don't need to know today whether he likes you because you will find out soon enough. Also, he might be at home wondering if you enjoyed the date, etc. Also, remember, Alcoholics don't have a drinking problem, we have a "thinking" problem. I am not aware of your drug of choice but it all applies. And, let someone help you. I saw a shrink for 17 years before I finally allowed him to help me. Now I see him and another therapist and it has really allowed this big ole tough guy to let someone else debate inside my head versus me. I now depend on God to handle the hard stuff but I have found that my therapist has really become the kind of persoin I wished I could trust for many years.