Kirsty - I know that feeling very well -- shy nervous and uncomfortable. It seems I can only be myself with my children; and I love that "ME", she rocks -- she is funny, interesting, and self-confident!! Been wondering myself lately how I can coax that girl out so others can get to know her.... Made a big step last night going to a church social activity, alone, where I didn't know anyone. Normally I would be too scared to walk into a room of people I didn't know and socialize. But, I did it!! Baby steps. I've been in therapy and al-anon for two years, and I feel like that was a huge breakthrough for me.