I've been here and I know that emotional affair hurts just as much as anything else. When I found the inner courage to say, hey, she can HAVE you and all your problems, addictions, poverty. I surrender. I'm not saying she's a better woman than I am, I'm tired and let her do the work now. I want MY life back minus your crap. I only had a measly part time job and a car. I had no money and no where to go, but living IN my car would've been better in my opinion. Of course my guy recanted, said he lied. Oh really, so in addition you are a lying cheat addict? Not good enough for me, no thanks!