Originally Posted by
stella27 
iwc,
Is it posssible for you to leave the man alone?
He knows what treatments are available.
He knows you think his drinking is the cause of your relationship troubles.
He knows that you are worried about the combination of alcohol and depression.
He knows that you will continue to threaten to leave, but not follow through.
He already knows all this because you have already told him.
Why are you so intent on changing another person?
He does get to be who he wants to be. He loves drinking. It's his #1 priority.
That is his choice, dearest.
All YOU get to decide is what you want in your life.
You don't get to make him into it.
Stella...
wow, thank you for posting that! It's almost as if you were talking to me!
I did all of those things. We talked, we yelled, ..or maybe I talked, and I yelled. I threatened to leave, I wanted him to change.
You cannot change anyone except yourself. I finally had enough, and I left my A on Feb 5th.
What happens to him, is now up to him. He can no longer place ANY blame on me. I am no longer there to stop him from being 'the man he wants to be'. I have to let go, and let God. SOOO much easier said than done, but everyday is a work in progress!
I am thankful to have found this forum!
