Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
I don't see how you get "unpopular" out of concern for your safety and well-being, but I'm glad you are meeting with the counselor.
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speaking for myself....
sometimes when people are very concerned about someone's safety, they can get very blunt, that bluntness without the softening context of body language and tone can be interpreted by a victim of abuse as being told off, (again, reinforcing the situation at home where everything is their fault, where they are stupid or not reacting "properly"). Especially when it is repeated "louder" and more bluntly by a number of people. Sometimes it can come across as bordering on bullying, especially when bringing the effect on someone's children into the argument, being a good parent may be all they have, and they may be doing many things to draw fire from the children or protect them.
I'm so glad you rang a counsellor IIM.