Anvilhead i did one better i decided to change my phone number completely. I am never going to get my life back as long as i allow myself to continue trying to fix his problems. Step one for me!
It would seem your confusion is lifting, BRAVO! When you focus on your own needs and what is healthy for you and not make every decision about him, the path becomes clearer.
When I was on that fence trying to decide if leaving my XABF was the right path for me, I received heartfelt wisdome here to just make the next healthy decision and go from there. I focused on my needs and what I needed to do to improve my life and somehow the answers just presented themselves.
Your recovery looks good on you!!
Alice