re: Not Happy, Alcoholism doesn't cause sociopathy, but it can cause sociopathic behavior. A technical distinction, but it has implications dealing
re: coffeedrinker. I guess our problems were similar. I had not been on this forum, and just googled Alcoholism and Sociopaths or something like that and this was one of the few things of substance that came up. I see your point about taking what we can handle, and believe that can apply in a lot of life.
Fortunately, I am not particularly emotionally attached to this friend, as a lot of people are; as it seems like a lot of the earlier posters in this forum are, so I don't think it will difficult for me to give him a few tools to try to help himself, and give him some guidance, but also set boundaries.