Sorry for the frustration in your life right now. It sounds from your post that you both make decisions in which you both are not happy. Some decisions we make for good reasons or out of necessity and we usually can live with those choices. Other decisions we make from a different place/thought/feeling etc. and those seem to be the ones we find harder to accept. I have been trying to examine which category my decisions fall into and work on improving my mood and acceptance.
Having said that, most of us are in difficult situations and/or were at one point in time and it is important to ackowledge that it can be painful, frustrating and more when you are there. Easier to listen and give direction than to live it. Hope there some things that feel better to you today.