Originally Posted by
Kiki14738 
Just a question:
How long does it REALLY take for the addict to stop trying to manipulate? Even when they are working their program and doing well? Does it boil down to a behavior that needs to be modified after sobriety or are they predisposed for manipulation and THEN comes the addiction? Just a question open for opinions.
When we determine that someone else's behavior
needs to be modified, we are attempting to manipulate and control someone else's behavior.
Each of us has responsibility for ourselves and how we allow others to treat us. When we set boundaries, we let go of the outcome because we do not control other people's behavior.
If someone else's behavior is unacceptable to us, we take responsibility for our boundary and remove ourself from the situation.