Yes, SpiritualSeeker, I have invited him. Probably too many times! He came once, and I think there's a good change he'll dive in at some point. Yesterday I let him know that he's got a standing offer for weekly baby sitting if he'd like to go to meetings, but that I was going to back off a bit. He knows about my alcoholic parents, and I've been frank with him about how I'm in some murky waters here and I'm getting my motivations mixed up. I told him I was going to try not to give him any unasked for advice, but that I still wanted to communicate and help. We had a good laugh about my strange "plan".
coffeedrinker, you nailed me on #1 and #2. But I love to obsess! Why does it feel so good? Ack.
I do need to "be still and know", spiritual seeker. I wish my brain had some hands that I could sit on. If that makes sense.