It saddens me to think I am going to lose a core group of friends through me chosing a new lifestyle but I have an awesome boyfriend and am looking forward to our new life together. I use to frequent bars A LOT and when I stopped going "those" friends disappeared. But after reading a lot on here I see the same thing being repeated that most people that you drink with, when you tell them you aren't drinking anymore they get defensive because deep down they know they shouldn't either....i know that will be the case with my friends, so I am not saying anything.