Ahhhh.. I'm noticing that word rubs people the wrong way! I'm just a little slow.
Okay, so rewording my purpose and rewiring my thoughts:
Boundaries.
He has crossed it by becoming a void of a person not saying that as something bad about him, it's just a sad fact! The boundary has been crossed. My detaching mechanism has been activated.
So, if saying by Wendsday, he needs to be able to discuss it with me. And if all he does at that point is reverse it on me... I need to tell him that we need time apart. A good month to get my head together (his too but I won't say it). If he's responsive, rehab seems the most beneficial action as he had good results two years ago. I've read posts about suboxone<?> What a pain that would be. I would like to see him in really good hands.