I think so far everyone has responded wonderfully. I concur.
I know that I also loved my family and friends and tried, tried tried. Lot's of things needed to change within ME!!
I know you're probably looking for that right "answer" but I have to tell you that I know that I had to take certain steps that were suggested to me. No matter what way "I" wanted to do it, it didn't work.
I bet you'll get a lot more awesome responses to your question. Good luck to you!!!