I cannot advise you, however, as an Alcoholic in recovery for almost 29 years continously now, and an Al-Anoner for almost 26 I can say that there is a BIG difference between aother enjoying a 'glass of wine, or whatever with a meal and a someone getting 'drunk.'
Only you can make the finale decision. Only you can decide if the 'quanity and actions" are something you can life with or not.
J M HO
Love and hugs,