Speak for yourselves when you say that:
" you're all a bunch of codependents! Of course you're going to candy coat! "
I don't think we can be collectively pigeon-holed as candy-coaters.
We are all at different degrees of mental health, recovery, grief, intelligence, enlightenment, compassion, etc.
I totally hear that; i wasn't meant as an insult. My friend is a therapist and social worker and a wonderful, supportive human being. She just was hit with the conflict in a codie context and found it funny. We both thought it was wildly amusing and I thought you all might get a giggle, too.