Welcome to the Sober Recovery family!
You will find information and support for yourself here. We also have a section for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) and you will find support there as well.
I am sorry about your father's death from his alcoholism. I am also sorry that you have other loved ones active in their addiction to alcohol.
There really isn't anything you can do to make the others change. I wanted my loved one to change and I tried everything I could imagine to bring about that change. I came here and learned about the 3 c's of addiction:
I didn't cause it
I can't control it
I won't cure it
I was trying to control and cure another adult. I did not want someone trying to control and cure me of a problem I didn't acknowledge (codependency and my own alcoholism), therefore, I had to learn to let go and let the other adults in my life choose their own path.
It is difficult to detach but it helps me take better care of the only person I can control and cure: ME!
We're glad you found us and we are here to support you.