I'm glad you're here at SR. It will do worlds of good for you to read and reread others stories. When I read your post I can't fathom why you would pay someone else's bills while they are away for 10 months. That is nearly a year of your life you will lose in a sense. I had an experience when my fiance' overdosed. We lived together. In chaos, for almost 3 years. He overdosed and died. No family here. Just me. His mother is deceased and father estranged. His aunt called me and told me to go ahead and have the service here and they would have one in his home state without the body. I was stunned!!! LIKE HELLO, where am I supposed to get the money to bury your kin? When family isn't completely in the loop, it's kind of out of sight out of mind. Can you get in touch with his family and say something like this is as long as I can pay for blank. After that, I don't know what you intend to do for your son...