These may be big problems that I have, but at least I admit them and work on them!
This is called owning your own BS.
I remember the time when I started owning by own BS. I felt empowered, independent, and vindicated. No matter was nonsense XABF was throwing my way, I new my side of the street was in the best shape I could keep it at the time.
Was I overweight, sure, but I was working hard at changing that. (By the time we split I was down to the same weight I was when we met. I thought it was poetic in some way.) Was I still having health issues, sure, but they were fading away. Was I still codependent, oh yes, but in recovery I was learning the tools to keep that in check.
Last I spoke to him (gosh 4 mos ago now) he was still drinking and still not owning his own BS. Me, I work on my BS every day, honey, and I'm worth the effort!!
Alice