I am like transform. I had to be beaten to an emotional pulp before I left. He then said he was leaving me. I now have to fight him for child support after I supported him and our son for 5 years.
He will not change, and if he does it will be short lived. Alcoholism is PROGRESSIVE. do not let that go out the other ear. I wasted several years waiting and trying and taking it. I wish to God I could change that now. I am now 41. I met him when I was 32.
I kept thinking that he would get it. He still doesn't and he now lives in a haze of alcoholic delusion. It is sad, but I am finally ready to look after me first...don't even get me started on what I have put my son through, when I could have just walked away.
hope this helps. Im sorry.