ANDE,
im sorry for your pain too. but, if its any consolation ... i dont think she'd call you if she didnt love and appreciate what you've done for her. im adopted, and i dont call my bio parents or family anymore. i know you weren't her bio fam, but you must have made a positive impact in her life for her to reach out to you like that. hang in there ANDE! oh yeah, i think its supercool that you opened your home as a fosterparent. that takes a special person!
hugs,
dot