Do you really owe his parents a visit with your child. I'm a grandmother of three, and my kids don't owe me a visitation. I love it when I'm invited, but certainly don't feel my children are obligated to let me see my grandchildren. If you are uncomfortable with the idea, trust your intuition and gut instinct. Could you set up a "virtual" visit instead? Whether or not your AH comes to realize who his parents are, and then intelligently make a decision is just wishing and hoping on your part. In the meantime, the clock is ticking away and time is running. Yes, it will be a bumpy ride and we at this forum will be your shock absorber. I don't feel that shielding your child from an addict is unreasonable. It's good parenting.