Originally Posted by
Mlewis904 
Ugh I wish circumstances were different...i can't believe the person that created him is the person that ultimately killed him...if his mother acted like a normal person none of this would have happened....
This is called "magical thinking". I do it all the time
I WISH things were different. I wish that my former husband was more balanced, healthier, had gotten an education, was less prejudiced, that his family was normal, etc etc. But that's not reality.
Living in the "what if" is not only useless, it can also lead us towards delusional and dangerous action. You can organize your entire life based on "what if", only to be horribly disappointed and hurt when things don't happen how you expected.
Living in "what is", as hard as it may be, is the only way I've found to find peace within myself.